Tell Me Your Story Tuesday
Marsha is a former elementary school administrator who presides over our RWA chapter meetings with grace, poise and, as is essential for our group, a sense of humor. She joins us on the blog today to talk about parenting and writing.
LET'S GET TO KNOW MARSHA!
Thanks, for inviting me, Dawn. I decided to start with
an issue that’s important to me. Good parenting. However, not so much in the
delightful way Regina Richards speaks of it in her Bad Mommies Blog. (You
really should check that out; it’s so funny.)
All of my adult life, I’ve been involved in schools as a
secondary teacher, parent, volunteer, school board member (In Texas this is a volunteer,
non-partisan elected position.), an elementary school assistant principal, and
principal. I’ve seen first-hand what a difference good early parenting makes in
a child’s life, for his/her teacher, class and school. The ripples extend far.
Most of us model what our parents did, be it good or
bad. (I’m pretty certain mine didn’t have training.) All parents do the best
they can, but sometimes even though we’re trying to help, we hinder. For
instance, probably the worst thing we can do for our kids is rescue them. I’m
raising my hand as a major offender. If one daughter forgot her lunch, I’d dash
down to school with it. If the other daughter waited until the last minute to
tell me about a project and needed the poster board, I’d head out to the grocery
store for the supplies. I really wanted to be a good mom. Experts tells us rescuing
teaches the child they are not capable and can do real harm to their
self-esteem. Rescuing is worse than neglect. In that situation, somehow the kid concludes, "My parents think I can handle this." Talk about counter-intuitive.
I serve on the Advisory Board of Texas Parents as Teachers, giving them time, advocacy, and money. Your school district or child-care
facility may have access to this program. I’d love to tell you more about TPAT and how trained parent educators work with
parents of children from birth through four, using an evidence based curriculum.
The crucial early years are most important for how successful a child is at school
and in life.
Education is powerful.
We can change anything with the knowledge
and the will to do so.
(Bolded by Dawn)
That’s my soapbox, and now
I’ll answer a few of Dawn’s questions.
What made you decide to
write? What did you do before becoming a writer?
answered the second question already. But as to the first, when my mother was
ill a number of years ago, I buried my worries in romances. (After a hiatus of
probably 20 years when I only read educational related material.) Visiting with
one of my husband’s friends, I said, “I think I could write one of these if I
knew what to write about.” He said, ”Write about the huge scandal in the school
district we’ve just been discussing.” (The scandal started after I left the
board.) Thus the kernel for my first book was born.
Tell us about being
President of NTRWA. What has that been like? What have you loved? What has been
like to think being president of an organization is one of the things I do
well, though not perfectly by any means. I love to see problem solving by group
members, and I’ve actually experienced chill bumps when it’s really going well.
It’s almost magical. (A little weird, I know.) J The biggest
challenge has been my inability to juggle the time commitment to allow for
writing. On the other hand (people who know me will tell you, I can almost
always come up with an “on the other hand.”), when times got really tough with
writing this year, and I gave serious thoughts to quitting, my involvement in
NT and friends I’ve met there kept me going.
Do you have a writing
routine? What does it look like? Where do you usually write?
I was writing new books (I’ve been editing all this year.), after sending my
husband off to work, I’d sit in front of the computer in our study and quickly
check emails. Then I’d read over whatever I wrote the day before, making some
edits, basically getting back into the world. I’d write all day until time to fix
supper with breaks to see why the puppies were barking. For approximately three-and-a-half-years,
I averaged 20 pages a week, cranking out 2nd-5th books. Our
critique group met weekly, and we almost always had our new pages. Knowing the
others depended on us kept our rear in the seat and fingers on the keys. (Both
of those talented people will be published soon. The first of Jeanne Guzman’s Dragon Hunters series, Dragon Lover comes out momentarily, and Jerrie Alexander’s
The Green Eyed Doll makes its appearance in 2012.)
you have any special time management tricks for working in writing time and
living a normal life?
The short answer is “Not really.” However, from
my theatre background, I’m used to having a date when something has to be ready
and backing up from that date to see when I have to begin. That translates to
deadlines for contests, and hopefully, someday to sending edits back to an
editor. If someone doesn’t give me a deadline, I have to create one, or I don’t
get anything done.
What is the best advice you have received
about this journey?
That it is a
journey, and there are many paths to publication. The only person who can defeat
us is ourselves—if we give up.(Amen!)
What advice do you wish
someone would have given you when you were starting out?
“Don’t query until
you’re certain sure the ms is in as perfect a condition as possible.” I queried
much too early before I learned basics of the craft and self-editing strategies.
“On the other hand,” that allowed me to become an RWA PRO, and I’ve learned a
great deal form that group and our local NT PRO loop.
What kind of scenes do
you have a hard time writing?
first one. J Seriously, I have
the dickens of the time finding where to start a book. I usually cut 2-3
chapters. Even now, when I get that the story needs to start in the middle of
the action, I don’t write it that way.
Do you ever write material based on your close
relationships, such as a best friend, and how do you balance that material with
the need to tell an interesting story?
I based the first
book more than any other on real people, fictionalized of course. (To my
knowledge, sex and murders weren’t connected to the school scandal mentioned in
question 1.) In other books, I’ve borrowed characteristics or a name I’ve
modified. More than people, I borrow situations and places. Bottom line, it’s
fiction. People, places and situations provide the inspiration, and then my imagination
do you do when you aren’t writing?
Family—three grands, who I enjoy babysitting,
two “puppies” (12 and 13 years old), and wonderful trips with my husband. I
take Pilates a couple times a week at my younger daughter’s studio. This year
lots of NT related work. Emails and blogs. I feel sorry for authors if not many
folks have taken time to respond, so I do. Unfortunately, as you’ve noticed,
I’m not brief. I don’t write in sound bites. Need to work on that. LOL
Tell us a bit about your work in progress.
I’m doing the last edits on my 5th
book with Renee, my new in person critique partner, and Denyse, a new on-line
In Truth Be Told, a 95,000 Single
Title Romantic Suspense, Meg, an Atlanta SWAT team member visiting her family
in Fort Worth at Christmas wants to stop whoever is blackmailing her father. Meg
pursues a resistant Scott, who struggles to accept his new physical
limitations, which he received saving the life of Meg’s brother. The disability
prevents Scott from returning to the force, and in his mind makes him
unacceptable to Meg. In uncovering the pieces of the puzzle, they learn the
truth, which threatens to ruin her father’s career as mayor and destroy Meg’s
family. She and Scott discover real love will require sacrifices on both their
What is next for you?
a single title romance with no title. The log line: When a member of the board of a
non-profit arts agency in Fort Worth turns up dead, a homicide detective looks
at everyone involved in the organization, including the Executive Director.
time last year, I did a lot of planning for this book. With NT’s retreat coming
up next weekend, I expect to spend the time writing like a fiend. I’ll continue
to take on-line classes and attend conferences/retreats, enter and judge contests,
critique, and query. There’s always more to learn.
How can we find out
more about you? Blogs? Facebook? Twitter?
don’t have my own blog. (That’s probably all I’d ever do if I had one.) I’m
super pleased to be able to post on Dawn’s however.
My web site is marsharwest.com
and I FB a bit as Marsha Riegert West.
for having me, Dawn.
Thank you for stopping by. It was a pleasure getting to know you better.
I’ve loved your questions.
I’m going to throw one back to
our readers. What do you wish you’d known before becoming a writer? For those
of you who are parents, what’s the best advice you’ve received from anyone on
how to be a better parent?