Let's talk about Sex

Thinking about Thursday
Let's Talk about Sex

Now that I have your attention, excuse me a moment while I make a private comment to my husband.
Honey, if you are reading this: you can go back to watching hockey, it isn't going to be what you hope!

For my writer friends, let's talk about sex. My apologies to all of you who now have a Salt and Peppa Song stuck in your head. Let's talk about sex, baby. Let's talk about you and me...

Anyway, I am  wondering if  writing about sex is not in my skill set. Don't get me wrong, I am far from prude and have no problem reading about it. 
But, when I start writing I can only come up with about three synonyms for moan and even less for particular body parts. Therefore, my scenes are less than...enthralling ( I was going to say climatic, but the pun felt too juvenile). 

As an aspiring romance writer, this is a problem!

To quote Roni Loren, whose erotic novel Exposure Therapy comes out in early 2012 :  
"The best way to learn to write sex is to read a heat level above what you're writing and
then when you get to your own book, what you're writing feels mild compared to the other stuff."

That is great advice and, as of now, finding a heat level about mine shouldn't be difficult.

One of my mother's comments about the first (and only) manuscript I let her read was, 
"There wasn't enough sex to make it a romance novel. You should add more." 

That was creepy in itself. I don't know which is worse, having a mother who would be embarrassed at how erotic your book is or having a mother who doesn't think it is erotic enough....(hmm, guess I will save that question for my next therapy session.)

Honestly, I am not worried about what people think about me writing sex scenes. I am worried about what people will think about me writing bad sex scenes.

Romantic suspense is my niche and there are successful authors who write without it. Wendy Lyn Watson 's mystery a-la-mode series, for example. Warning: The way Wendy describes ice cream is like reading about sex!

So, what do you think? 

Can a romance novel (or in my case, romantic suspense) that is not historical or inspirational be sexy, hot and most importantly, sell without explicit sex? 

What do you prefer in your reading/ writing?

Do more readers want to see the bedroom door swing shut and leave the rest to the imagination? Or  have the entire fantasy played out before them?  

As always, thank you so much for stopping by! I look forward to reading your comments.

Have a great weekend!